Recent Articles From EvanCarmichael.com http://www.evancarmichael.com/ http://www.evancarmichael.com/Business-Coach/2476/Being-unattached-to-the-outcome.html http://www.evancarmichael.com/Business-Coach/2476/Being-unattached-to-the-outcome.html When you're so caught up in some upset, anger, irritation, or negative pattern of engagement with someone else it can be a hard lesson, but a useful one, to learn to understand the power of recognising when you are emotionally attached to your pattern. It is like we so want something that it obsesses us and thus we in effect push it away. What we need to do is see that we are attached to it and let it go. It is a paradox but frequently a very powerful way of realising what we truly need that is best for us. http://www.evancarmichael.com/Business-Coach/2476/BE-HERE-NOW--Being-present-as-facilitator.html http://www.evancarmichael.com/Business-Coach/2476/BE-HERE-NOW--Being-present-as-facilitator.html Someone unexpectedly decides to leave a group. 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